Sometimes in life situations arise that put you in a storm. This storm can and will blow you away and sometimes does.
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I don't know how it happens, but it just happens. No books can teach you how, no one can explain why, but it comes. 'The peace that passeth all understanding'.
My experience with this 'peace that passeth all understanding' is that it has a beautiful tinge of silver to it. When I say silver, I mean the 'feeling' that this peace is silvery in nature. Very difficult to explain in words, but it is beautiful and intense, silent and calm.
My experience reminds me of a book I read recently. A book on Tibetan Buddhism named 'Luminous Emptiness' by Francesca Fremantle, an associate of Chogyam Trungpa, the founder of Naropa University. This book talks of 'wrathful compassion' and 'crazy wisdom' that it's deities/dakinis use, to 'force' their student into stillness and mental peace.
The author talks of 'sanity and insanity' working simultaneously, 'cruelty and compassion' working together. Under ordinary circumstances, 'sanity and insanity' working together is nonsense, it is just insanity.
But, under special circumstances, when there is love and trust between the partners, sanity and insanity working together can do wonders, like Francesca Fremantle explains.
The thread of love holds people together, when 'sanity-insanity' operates. Without love, it would all be insanity.
When sanity and insanity, cruelty and compassion, all work together in the envelope of love, 'peace that passeth all understanding' starts manifesting, for brief periods at first, and slowly the time for which this peace stays keeps on increasing. But only if you don't expect it to.
Human relationships are sane and insane, both. There is cruelty in them, there is compassion in them, both at the same time. But this is immature love.
In mature love, there can be no cruelty, no revenge, no brutality. Love is not about beating each other black and blue(emotionally or physically) and then weeping and crying and apologising later.
If love enters the cruel-compassionate-sane-insane relationships that humans strike with each other, they will all heal in time, and 'peace that passeth all understanding' will manifest.
Love can heal everything.
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