Hypocrisy

Update: Somebody just commented anonymously, that 'this blog is not about spirituality'. Well...all I can say to that person is *kiss my @$$*.

Moving on---

I received some hostile comments on my last post (Psychosis or Transcendence) recently, comments that have been deleted. This post is inspired by these comments.

Two people had problems focusing on the text of the post, and got fixated on the accompanying image which has mild nudity(The Cosmic Dancer). This happened although the image fits perfectly with the text of the post.

Many people---their unevolved emotional worlds cannot see the difference between art and porn. They have way too many sexual hangups.

The sexual hangup is a cross cultural phenomenon, it exists in every culture, at every socio-economic level. You will find this hangup in the ghettos of an orthodox Indian town, you will find this hangup in the uppermost echelons of New Delhi. You will find this hangup in the royal circles of London, you will find this hangup in the snobbish circles of New York. You name a place, and this hangup will be there.

Please note that I am not talking about movie stars, playboy models and the like. They are a different breed altogether although they come from all kinds of backgrounds and socio-economic levels. They get used to things like nudity, although even they are not totally free of hangups. I know this for sure, having studied many pornstars and movie actresses, through their interviews. Their hangups are less intense, but are very much there.

The 'sexually liberated person' is VERY VERY rare. The ones who come across as sexually liberated are (most probably) pretending. I have seen some people who are actually liberated, but it is very rare.

M. Scott Peck, reknowned psychiatrist, who's theories are taught at many good universities all over the world, writes in his book, 'The Road Less Travelled'....

[Paraphrased]: "Sex is a problem for Jane. Sex is a problem for John. Sex is a problem for the husband, sex is a problem for the wife. Sex is a problem for everyone, including Scott Peck."

(I don't have the book with me right now, hence the paraphrase.)

Here are some examples of Indian hypocrisy. Indians pray to a naked Kali (an Indian goddess who is naked most of the time!) in temples, but these people will drive you crazy with their sexual orthodoxy and sexual hypocrisy. They cannot handle the strong emotions generated by sexual issues/nudity and create havoc, destroy when stimulated.

For example--recently, Hindu fundamentalists went on a rampage in an Indian town named Lucknow...because they were against Indian girls wearing jeans & trousers in public.

Although secretly the same men love seeing women in tight clothes, jeans etc...hypocrites.

The same problem exists everywhere. For example, a girl I know was telling me that girls in her community, somewhere in the United States of America, are not allowed to wear jeans or tight clothes...now...I highly doubt that men in that american community do not like seeing women in tight clothes! She was also telling me that women in her community are not allowed to watch 'HBO' because it has 'dirty Hollywood movies'.

These are not examples of 'decent people imposing bans on indecent people', this is ALL nonsense, all hypocrisy.

Somebody might say that people belonging to upper socio-economic echelons are in general casual and cool about sexual issues and nudity. This is incorrect. They pretend to be casual and cool. They are NOT casual and cool, on the inside!

The playboy model or the movie actress who takes her clothes off on camera is NOT sexually liberated. She is just "BOLD".

Pornstars are also NOT liberated, sexually! Just very very "BOLD"!

The surprising thing is that my other post with nudity--the one on 'Sadomasochism, Nurture and Love' that I posted 15 days back--did not attract bizarre comments--although it carried no warnings--- though I have changed that now, it is hidden like the cosmic dancer in 'Psychosis or Transcendence' is hidden.

Love-II

This post highlights the difference between addictive clinging and real love. It was written when I was drunk. Read on...
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Here's some lyrics by Barbra Streisand from her song 'woman in love'.

I am a woman in love
And I'll do anything
To get you into my world
And hold you within
It's a right I defend
Over and over again
What do I do?

I am a woman in love
And I'm talking to you
Do you know how it feels?
What a woman can do
It's a right I defend
over and over again..

what lyrics...... :-/

"I'll do anything to get you into my world and hold you within, its a right I defend over and over again."
Sounds like 'I'm planning to plant my flag on your ass, its a right I defend, over and over again". Wtf is 'its a right I defend'? Right my ass. And I'll say this. Over and over again.

"I stumble and fall, but I give you it all."
Keeping in with the spirit of the song, what she really means is "I stumble and fall, but I'll plant my flag on your ass after all".

"Do you know how it feels? what a woman can do?"
Hell I know EXACTLY what a woman can do if its a woman like you. Because I've experienced it first hand. Do you know how THAT feels?

Ms. Streisand's song is a typical example of what Eckhart Tolle calls 'addictive clinging that humans call love'.

Someone should introduce Ms. Streisand to Osho Rajneesh, who repeatedly says 'possess by not possessing'.

Or to Scott Peck who says 'Love is separateness'.

Eckhart Tolle [paraphrased]: "Love is not a portal into anything. Love is what starts flowing through you, as your connection with the formless dimension starts re-forming."

This is the sanest thing I've ever heard. And it points something. That some degree of spiritual growth is necessary before love can be given/experienced. A person who finds security in his/her connection with the cosmos is perhaps the only one who can give love. The rest of us, well, we are unfortunately not that blessed. We are in the grip of 'addictive clinging'.

Some more lyrics:

I'll close my eyes and then I won't see
The love you don't feel, when you're holding me
Morning will come, and I'll do what's right
Just give me till then, to give up this fight
And I will give up this fight..

Wonderful words that have no trace of the 'addictive clinging' quality. Very well sung by George Michael, in the song 'I cant make you love me' from his album 'older'. Lyrics by a lady named Bonnie Rights or something.

None of George Michael's love songs (own or borrowed) have the addictive clinging quality to them. Not even one. That's a sign of a being on the verge of awakening, on the verge of enlightenment.

His high degree of spiritual evolution is also evident in the following lyrics from his song 'the strangest thing':

"Take my life...time has been twisting the knife...I don't recognise the people I care for...there's a liar in my head, there's a thief upon my bed, and the strangest thing is I cannot seem to get my eyes open...please don't analyse...please just be there for me."

Words of wisdom. These lyrics suggest that perhaps the condition of George Michael's ego has finally entered George Michael's awareness. The seed has been planted.

Here is the wonderful George Michael number, 'I can't make you love me'. Worth listening to. Wonderful experience. Switch off those lights and close your eyes. ;-)



Update:
I was just listening to 'Love is a battlefield' by Pat Benatar....and I'm like...'wha..?' Why should love be a battlefield? Sex may be a battlefield ;-) but why should love be a battlefield? Humans have made everything a battlefield. If its a battlefield, I don't know what it is, but its not love.

George Michael, in his song 'Father Figure' sings 'If you are the desert, I'll be the sea....if you ever hunger, hunger for me'. This line is a good example of the (necessary) separation between two lovers. Beautiful lyrics by George Michael.

Summary:
So Scott Peck writes of separateness, Osho Rajneesh writes of separateness (possess by not possessing). George Michael says the same thing. Eckhart Tolle says the same thing -- Do not try to possess your lover, do not be an addictive clinger. Your lover is a distinct person, not an extension of your ego, not your toy. Find security in yourself and your life, and then relate to your lover like a mature person - one who does not try to possess, is not jealous, and does not drain the other emotionally.